If you follow me on Instagram, you’ve probably noticed I have been taking a little break from the social media and blogging world. I needed a little breather and to start feeling creative again.
I felt frustrated at the content I was producing and I felt bored. Bored of creating, bored of writing. And I felt like most days I was really scraping the barrel. But I also felt like I wasn’t really trying. I had all the equipment, time and space to push as much as I could, but I just didn’t want to. I had no desire to film videos or create looks for the sake of it. I could barely keep to writing a blog post once a month. I was forcing myself to create content when I had no creativity in me. And because I wasn’t producing enough content my following was dropping – something I took really personally. I was literally basing my success on likes. I had actually become a full on millennial.
“The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eyes of others.”
So what is success?
For a big part of my adult life, I had been confused about what success actually meant.
You might think of success as fame or money or a promotion, but what it ultimately comes down to, is happiness. Whatever your target of success is, at the end of the day, we all want to endure the least amount of suffering whilst we are here.
I in no way think this is easy, nor do I think it can happen quickly. We are so hard on ourselves, worrying about the way we look, what others think of us, how we should act etc. But spending some time working on your own self development, self love and self worth, will make a big difference in how we begin to feel.
Think of that voice in your head that tells you “you’re ugly,” “you’re not good enough” or “you cant do that.” Now imagine that voice, coming out of your head, standing next to you as a fully formed person that follows you around, telling you that you’re a failure and you suck at everything. There is only so long you would hang around with that person for.
Talk to yourself as you would your best friend.
And take a break when you need it, breaks are necessary.
Unplug and come offline every now and again. It’s crazy how much clearer your mind can become from doing this. This is also something else I have recently discovered…
The internet can make you miserable.
It can be a funny place sometimes, so I think it’s important to be present in the real world as much as you can be. I read somewhere once that social media has connected the world but disconnected individuals. And that we should know it’s place in our lives without making it our life.
There is constantly so much going on online, without it ever reaching a cut off point. When we watch films or TV programmes, read books or magazines, they all come to a point where we can either take a break or stop. The internet doesn’t have this. It is constantly being updated and refreshed, with more things for us to watch, read or just aimlessly scroll through.
I would notice that after scrolling or flicking between apps all day, I would feel mentally exhausted. This is because constant switching from one task to another, strongly tires our brains, especially if this information is received chaotically, in small portions, which is pretty much the sole purpose in these social media apps. There is no doubt that this will start to take its toll mentally.
Listening to what our mind and our body needs is so important, because taking care of our health and happiness is the ultimate key to success.